50 Questions to Ask Him Before You Get Married

Marriage isn’t just about love — it’s about alignment, communication, values, and the life you’re building together. Asking the right questions before getting married can help you understand each other more deeply and avoid surprises later.

These questions aren’t meant to interrogate or overwhelm. They’re meant to open honest conversations, clarify expectations, and strengthen emotional connection before taking the next step.

Questions About Values & Beliefs

1. What values guide your decisions in life
2. What does commitment mean to you
3. How do you define a successful marriage
4. What role does faith or spirituality play in your life
5. What principles do you want our marriage to be built on
6. How do you handle temptation or pressure
7. What does loyalty look like to you
8. What do you believe makes love last
9. What lessons did you learn from your parents’ relationship
10. What personal values matter most to you

Questions About Communication & Conflict

11. How do you usually handle disagreements
12. What makes you shut down emotionally
13. How do you prefer to resolve conflict
14. What helps you feel heard during arguments
15. How do you react when you’re hurt
16. What’s your biggest communication weakness
17. How can I communicate better with you
18. How do you apologize
19. What do you need during difficult conversations
20. How do you handle stress or pressure

Questions About Money & Responsibility

21. How do you manage money
22. What are your financial priorities
23. How do you feel about budgeting and saving
24. What does financial security mean to you
25. How do you handle debt
26. What role should finances play in decision-making
27. How do you feel about shared accounts
28. What are your long-term financial goals
29. How do you approach financial planning
30. What does providing look like to you

Questions About Family & Children

31. Do you want children, and if so, how many
32. How do you imagine raising children
33. What role should extended family play in our lives
34. How do you handle family boundaries
35. What traditions matter most to you
36. How do you envision parenting responsibilities
37. What kind of home environment do you want
38. How do you handle family conflict
39. What values would you want to pass on
40. How do you see our family growing

Questions About Marriage & Partnership

41. What does being a good husband mean to you
42. What do you expect from me as your partner
43. What do you think marriage will change
44. How do you handle routine and responsibility
45. What makes you feel appreciated
46. How do you want us to support each other
47. What scares you about marriage
48. What excites you most about marrying me
49. How do you imagine growing together
50. What kind of marriage do you want us to create

A Gentle Reminder

Asking these questions isn’t about finding perfect answers — it’s about honesty, openness, and willingness to grow together. The right conversations now can build a stronger foundation for the future you’re choosing.